Long Days, Short Years: On Dealing with a Homeschooler Leaving for College

dealing with a homeschooler leaving for college

The following post was written by contributing writer Roan of Joyful Always.

You have probably heard the following quote, “ The days are long, but the years are short.”

It is true.  It is so true.  Since my 18 year old left our home for college, I have often asked myself where the time went.  It seems like she should be sitting at our kitchen table playing with play-doh or running through the house acting silly with her siblings.  Now she has grown into a beautiful intelligent young lady, full of promise and potential, and living hundreds of miles away. I miss her dearly.

Mothers, treasure both the monotony and chaos of your homeschooling days.

When the second grader is falling out of his chair for the fourth time in five minutes, the kindergartner is crying about a math problem, the two year old is unrolling the toilet paper, and the baby is hungry, pause.  Take it all in.  Capture the scene in a mental picture.  Because before you know it, they all grow up, right before your eyes.

Each phase of motherhood and homeschooling presents its challenges.  Trying to homeschool young elementary aged students with babies and toddler underfoot can be both mentally and physically exhausting.  Next comes the equally taxing stage of preteens and later high schoolers.  Trying to coordinate and manage the extracurricular activities and the increasing academic demands of your homeschool program is not easy.  But try to enjoy it.  Take it all in.  The time actually flies by.

Having homeschooled my children for 13 years, I have grown so attached to them. Being with those whom you love for twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week fosters that attachment.  When you are in the trenches of day to day teaching, cleaning, cooking, errand-running, and laundry, the days can creep by with perpetual slowness.  But while you are living and working with your children day after day, you are building a precious relationship.  A relationship that you will sorely miss when they leave home.

I often tell young mothers who ask me for parenting or homeschooling advice to remember two little words:  No regrets.  Look forward to the time when they will leave your home and think about what you will wish you have done or not done.  And choose the path that leads to no regrets.

Roan is the homeschooling mother of five children, including one college freshman. She writes regularly all about her family and their daily happenings at her personal blog, Joyful Always.  Roan’s interests include running, sewing, reading, homemaking, organizing, and reading.


  1. Aww, this brought a tear to my eye. I am currently in the trenches while homeschooling a PRE-K student and I have a baby (toddler) underfoot. I am going to be mindful and try to capture all of this the best way that I can.

  2. You brought a tear to my eye, too, Roan. I only have two children, aged 8 and 10 (one with special needs) and I can never have enough reminders to appreciate this wonderful time we are so blessed to spend together. Thanks for a lovely post.


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